Quantcast
Channel: Dating Without Drama » Steve Y
Viewing all articles
Browse latest Browse all 3

3 Reasons Men Don’t Approach You [Advice From Men]

0
0

Everyone knows the most effective way for a woman to appear approachable is a smiling face, but, here are three common situations that might be stopping the guys before they even get started.

The Cell-Phone Security Blanket

This is my personal least-favorite. Whether you’ve met them or not, a lot of guys have been taught manners growing up; holding the door for girls, chewing with their mouths closed, and not interrupting. If a woman is talking on her phone, or intently staring, scrolling and typing, there are a ton of men out there who will not interrupt by approaching her. Why would they? By burying her nose in the screen, or having a meaningless chat with a friend just to kill time, she has made herself unavailable.

Besides, we all know she’s just nervous, and lacks the self-confidence to face any situation alone without the crutch of a pretend distraction. We just never call her out on it, on account of our good manners…

The Guinea Pig Killer

If you are not this type, you definitely know this type. This is the girl who at a bar, club, or anywhere that men might approach women, turns nasty when a man she doesn’t find attractive approaches her. The man approaches, and her response is immediate and uncalled for. She rolls her eyes. She practically yells. For some reason she needs to make sure everyone hears her shoot the guy down:

“Umm yeah, I don’t think so!”

Or

“No thank you! Please leave us alone!”

Maybe even an “as if” as the poor guy is walking away!

Want in on a little secret?

Every guy in the place was clocking the whole thing. We are acutely aware when one of our kind has decided to pull the trigger, and we are watching. When this woman reacts so vehemently to the first guy who approaches her, most men are not going to risk being the second chump getting humiliated. Why not politely and discreetly tell him she’s not interested? Why the big show? If he starts bugging her, by all means, start to be mean. But, a little tact in her turn-down could go a long way. Other men, maybe even one she wouldn’t mind approaching, are watching this guy test the waters.

The Snookie

Men judge women by the way they are dressed. If a chick is dressed overly-sexy, we will classify her as a slut. She will definitely be approached by men, but only after they’re drunk and the night is almost over.


Viewing all articles
Browse latest Browse all 3

Latest Images

Trending Articles





Latest Images